How do I put myself in the driver's seat of my own life?

Wyoming, late summer (Photo by Willow Belden)

Wyoming, late summer (Photo by Willow Belden)


Can you turn yourself into a go-getter, or must you be born adventurous?


Dear Nature,

I find myself feeling very stuck at the moment.

I’ve never been very adventurous or a go getter and I have often wondered if those qualities, which I admire, are just inherent to some people and not others, or if there is a way for me to gain those qualities too. I had clinical anxiety that I was able to handle with professional help, and I thought once I got that in order I’d finally be able to find the motivation to go out in to the world and make things happen — take a more active role in my life. While I’m happy to say my mental health has greatly improved, I still haven’t found that motivation.

I find that as I reach the end of my twenties, time keeps passing and any ideas I have about starting a new path never seem to materialize. I don’t have a very specific life path in mind, but I would like to start by feeling like I’m in the driver's seat and actually have the internal fuel to make things happen! Any fixes from nature you can offer?

— Feeling Stuck

Nothing makes you feel like you’re in the driver’s seat more than planning an adventure ... and then following through.
— Becky Jensen

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